tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post6430845921246245846..comments2023-09-26T06:39:38.877-05:00Comments on P90X, Insanity and now TurboFire....Bring It!: It's a thin lineJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10038454792972449216noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-33116810515157797882009-09-17T12:34:59.245-05:002009-09-17T12:34:59.245-05:00I sent you an e-mail sweetie. this broke my heart...I sent you an e-mail sweetie. this broke my heart; hit to close to home (it brought back images and feeling of myself at this same age)KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18396429002961412543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-18738248452225600562009-09-16T15:04:49.286-05:002009-09-16T15:04:49.286-05:00Poor sweet thing. I started to cry reading this. I...Poor sweet thing. I started to cry reading this. It makes me almost angry because it's society's view on what's "pretty" that can be getting to her. Have you ever watched the movie "Spanglish"? It has almost the exact same scene in it, except the mom plays an idiot, and buys her daughter all these new clothes, but a size too small (to encourage her to lose weight) which of course broke her heart! But then the maid comes in and "lets out" all the clothes and makes her day! I know having money isn't at the top of anyones list right now, but try altering some of her clothes, or get some new staples for her that fit her well. Tell her it's just her body growing and they grow for a long time. Pump up her self esteem as much as possible and encourage her that her body is the Lord's, and no other (until she get's married, but don't think of that yet! LOL) so she doesn't have to worry about her weight because all that matters is what God thinks and God say and she is PERFECT. And she is!! HUGS to you, you're a great momma!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13921377966371726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-25504364591296968882009-09-16T14:26:09.910-05:002009-09-16T14:26:09.910-05:00I'll be honest; I read this a few days ago and...I'll be honest; I read this a few days ago and was totally stumped on giving good advice. <br /><br />I do agree with Rene, it's so important to watch what we say to kids and the value that kids see us place on certain things. They are sponges and they really do soak it all up. What's important to us often becomes important or valued to them because they see the improtance and the energy we put into it. Like if they don't make it important, then the parents won't love them as much, so they better jump on the bandwagon.<br /><br />I know she blogs too - can she read either of yours? <br /><br />Today's ads and clothing options for kids make me gag. I can only imagine what's waiting for me next year when I have to start picking out "appropriate" clothes for our kids. Too many shirts (even bibs!)has some smart-aleck statement on them. Everyone is a "princess" or a "stud" and it all gives me the heeby-jeebies! They're KIDS! <br /><br />Anywho . . . not sure where I'm going with this. It may just be coming from school and the girls around her all day. Who knows. Are you friends w/ her friends' parents? Maybe some of them are experiencing the same thing with their daughters too? <br /><br />She's at a rough age now - the age when kids nowadays are really starting to mature ahead of their time (no more Jr. High or High School). Keep us posted. I'll say a little prayer for her ... and for you, though I know you'll know the right thing to say and do.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04903029958201806185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-91422197860544909102009-09-15T19:32:11.049-05:002009-09-15T19:32:11.049-05:00Jen I am so sorry to hear this happened. Its a par...Jen I am so sorry to hear this happened. Its a parent's nightmare how to address body image issues in today's society. Every image they see is "sexy" and you are right the clothes they sell are often not "cut" for 8yr olds. I feel for you friend. Hopefully the meeting Sat. night will give some help in this area. My only recommendation is pretty much what has already been said... I don't think you can tell her she is fat-I think that will hurt her for too long emotionally(possibly forever), I do think you can talk about being more healthful in life's choices (snacks/activities), and explain that these choices build a strong healthy body from the inside out---its important what is going on in the inside (both physically and mentally)and that will affect the outside. More family activities like tag, soccer, catch could be "non-threatening" activities. The most important thing is handling it so that her emotions aren't scarred for the future. <br />Again, like we talked before , as adults and "role models" to our children we have to watch what we say in front of them , no more "I'm fat" "I need to lose JUST 5 more pounds" "I was bad, I ate cake". If we can't say positive stuff, we need to keep our lips zipped and not say negative stuff, especially infront of our impressionable kids.Rene'https://www.blogger.com/profile/13382103216031739451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-40364118279726165392009-09-15T19:19:41.619-05:002009-09-15T19:19:41.619-05:00The only thing I can think of is there are DVD'...The only thing I can think of is there are DVD's you can get at the library that are kid oriented fitness. She may really enjoy them as well as it helping her weight. You are already on the eating right track, remember the sugary drinks too, cause that adds to it during meals. I know I am already having to watch it with Ryan because he will sneak in and get snacks and before I know it he has eaten a whole box of something. So I make sure to give him the snacks sometimes and control the portion size. That is a tough one.Amoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07180764196840856181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-8358951472610341592009-09-15T17:44:48.237-05:002009-09-15T17:44:48.237-05:00I'm not a parent either, but growing up, I wis...I'm not a parent either, but growing up, I wish my parents and sister (who are naturally skinny...I'm not) started me on a fitness routine/healthy eating habits. Even to this day, I work out almost every day to shed a pound a week (if that) versus my sibling who gets skinny just by cutting out the junk food (and you can see her Jennifer Aniston arms). It doesn't have to be actual exercise like running or lifting weights, but there are a lot of activities you can do with your family. On the weekends, I see families play football and soccer. You could even go swimming together at the pool or ride bikes (up hills). You could also do a workout video that involves dancing or something fun...like boxing or yoga on the Wii. I have a co-worker who disciplines her boys by having them do pushups or flutter kicks.FLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14659733687865620626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-1193296873398345322009-09-15T15:47:38.651-05:002009-09-15T15:47:38.651-05:00Check out this segment from the Today Show with Ji...Check out this segment from the Today Show with Jillian Michaels...<br /><br />http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/32857197#32857197<br /><br />I would just encourage her to think positively... kids go through all kinds of growth spurts and that includes out before they go up (my 9yr old is in the "round" stage right now). Since you already have a handle on nutrition and your kiddos obviously have a great example to follow, remind them that God makes us all shapes and sizes and all that matters is if we're living healthy and taking care of the bodies He gave us!Faith | Family | Fitnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14044646091819165844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-929232488391643423.post-73251851028388708212009-09-15T09:37:30.377-05:002009-09-15T09:37:30.377-05:00So, I'm not a parent, so my thoughts be totall...So, I'm not a parent, so my thoughts be totally out in left field. I would say it's important to be encouraging, and if you want to add in some more family exercise, that would be great! It can be a family activity, and then you'd never tell your daughter she is fat. Of course she isn't! I hate that 8 year olds can even think that because of how our society is!!! I was so awkward up until about 12 or 13 because I have bigger muscles, etc. than the twiggy people had before high school. Hence the fact that I look thin but weigh 165 pounds now! My heart goes out to you! That is so tough to deal with! Fitness magazine has some great family workout/health sections... maybe they have good advice?Alissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07066934640605515009noreply@blogger.com